Me: Ok, what time?
Guy from the party: 8pm, we can watch a movie
Me: Alrighty, sounds like a plan J
Ex: (had almost 3months of being broken up) Hey.
Me: *lies because I do recognize his number* Hi there stranger, I got a new cell phone and I still don’t have all my contacts. Who is this? J
Ex: (I’m going to be like Taylor Swift and not use his real name) Efran
Me: *Thinking* Man, this would happen to me, right before I go on a date with someone else -____-…
Incase you don’t understand what’s going on, this whole scenario is based on an experience I had with a recent ex who decided to contact me three months after I broke up with him and an hour before I went on a date with a guy I had met. I’m pretty sure that a lot of you have gone through a similar experience and have been happy, mad, or had mixed emotions. I had mixed emotions.
What really stinks about that type situation is that you completely moved passed that relationship and you are exploring what’s out there, but now out of nowhere, this person wants to be part of you life again. Now what?
What can someone do when that person decides that THEY feel its right to start talking to you again? I asked my friends about it, a few said that they would tell that person off, others said that they would hear that person out and see what they wanted. I decided to do a little bit of both.
Some people would be happy because they one more shot with being with that person (or in some of my friend’s cases, a 10th time). Others would probably feel that it’s too late for that person to get another chance and they need to leave them alone. Then you have that chunk of people where they really aren’t sure what to do because they haven’t been in that situation before or they have mixed emotions. I fall into the third.
I decided to talk to that ex to see what he wanted. No surprise, he wanted to get back together. I took it as an opportunity to tell him everything that I held back from him and get some closure. We talked it out and tried to work on things, but after a few weeks of talking, he stopped talking to me. He tried to talk to me again after that and I rejected him. I didn’t let it get to me because I knew at the end of the day, I am young, have a great personality, a good heart, and any guy would be happy to have me in their life, but until I run into that one guy, might as well keep exploring what else is out there.
That’s one thing that I think a lot of us forget, we are young and not at the point where we should get serious with someone. I agree with some of my friends that say it’s important to date around and see what’s out there. At the same time I think it’s more important to take some time away from the love life and dedicate time to focus on you.
Won’t lie, we currently started talking again, but nothing is certain in this life, so it’s best to keep seeing what else it out there. Unless you are in relationship, that’s called cheating and it’s an evil thing to do to someone.